Whether seemingly fragile or not.
Things break.
Shiny new toys. Christmas ornaments. The zipper on your favorite pair of jeans. Relationships. People.
No matter how tough an object may seem, there is always a way to break it. Everything, in one way or another, has weaknesses. Maybe you dropped that shiny new toy down the stairs and it stopped doing that awesome robot voice. Someone brushes against the Christmas tree, an ornament falls to the hardwood floor underneath and shatters into a million little pieces. You've had those jeans for years, but maybe you gained a few pounds here and there and no matter how hard you try, that zipper isn't gonna budge. Oops, now you've gone and ripped it off.
These things happen.
We pick up the pieces and move on. We buy a better, shinier new toy. We rearrange the ornaments on the tree so that no one will notice the new vacancy on the branches. We purchase a new pair of jeans, a size larger, to accomodate our new shape.
Life continues on. People still breathe oxygen. The neighborhood dog still barks at 4 a.m. The businessman still catches the redeye to Atlanta.
Why should it be so different when the things that break aren't so easily replaced?
So your relationship's broken. Doesn't really matter who's to blame (both of you). Doesn't really matter the cause any more except to learn from and improve, because the end result is still the same: it's still broken. No amount of introspection and self-pity is going to fix it. It's simply broken. Why can't we just go find a shiny new relationship? Why can't we rearrange our lives like so many ornaments? Why can't we accept our flaws, like our broken zipper, and perhaps find a better fit?
Emotions aren't things that we can grasp in our hands and inspect. We can't touch them. We can't carry them around as objects. They simply are. They are a relationship's weakness. They are human weakness. But without them, without the ability to feel, what reason would we have for anything? Imagine nothing to look forward to. Imagine no happiness, no sadness, no anger, no jealousy, no anything. There would be no entertainment. We'd feel hot and cold, but not care either way. Imagine a state of perpetual apathy.
We have emotions, therefore we break.
Pick up the pieces and move on. People can rearrange. People can outgrow one another. There are better fits. And if you happen to find that better fit, go after it with all of your might. Fight for it. Don't let circumstance get in your way, there are ways to accomplish anything. Cherish it. Accept your flaws, accept theirs, embrace them, embrace yourself, embrace the union. Learn from your mistakes and grow into a better person.
And perhaps this next time, you won't need a replacement because you've finally learned how fragile it really is. Just like you.
Shiny new toys. Christmas ornaments. The zipper on your favorite pair of jeans. Relationships. People.
No matter how tough an object may seem, there is always a way to break it. Everything, in one way or another, has weaknesses. Maybe you dropped that shiny new toy down the stairs and it stopped doing that awesome robot voice. Someone brushes against the Christmas tree, an ornament falls to the hardwood floor underneath and shatters into a million little pieces. You've had those jeans for years, but maybe you gained a few pounds here and there and no matter how hard you try, that zipper isn't gonna budge. Oops, now you've gone and ripped it off.
These things happen.
We pick up the pieces and move on. We buy a better, shinier new toy. We rearrange the ornaments on the tree so that no one will notice the new vacancy on the branches. We purchase a new pair of jeans, a size larger, to accomodate our new shape.
Life continues on. People still breathe oxygen. The neighborhood dog still barks at 4 a.m. The businessman still catches the redeye to Atlanta.
Why should it be so different when the things that break aren't so easily replaced?
So your relationship's broken. Doesn't really matter who's to blame (both of you). Doesn't really matter the cause any more except to learn from and improve, because the end result is still the same: it's still broken. No amount of introspection and self-pity is going to fix it. It's simply broken. Why can't we just go find a shiny new relationship? Why can't we rearrange our lives like so many ornaments? Why can't we accept our flaws, like our broken zipper, and perhaps find a better fit?
Emotions aren't things that we can grasp in our hands and inspect. We can't touch them. We can't carry them around as objects. They simply are. They are a relationship's weakness. They are human weakness. But without them, without the ability to feel, what reason would we have for anything? Imagine nothing to look forward to. Imagine no happiness, no sadness, no anger, no jealousy, no anything. There would be no entertainment. We'd feel hot and cold, but not care either way. Imagine a state of perpetual apathy.
We have emotions, therefore we break.
Pick up the pieces and move on. People can rearrange. People can outgrow one another. There are better fits. And if you happen to find that better fit, go after it with all of your might. Fight for it. Don't let circumstance get in your way, there are ways to accomplish anything. Cherish it. Accept your flaws, accept theirs, embrace them, embrace yourself, embrace the union. Learn from your mistakes and grow into a better person.
And perhaps this next time, you won't need a replacement because you've finally learned how fragile it really is. Just like you.
posted by Myth. at 7:06 PM
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